1. When you are upset, how do you wish others (friends, family, lovers, children) would respond to you? How do others actually respond to you? Sometimes, I wish that my mother would care. Sometimes she does. Other times, she just wants me to stop and will ignore me. She'll really ignore when it's that time of the month, the time I most want her to care.
2. When you succeed (get hired at a job you wanted, get promoted, have a baby, find love, win the lottery, get an A in a class you worked hard in, get a C in a class you worked hard in, however you define success!), how do you wish others would respond to you and your success? How do others actually respond? Well, my paresnts are excited, and that's what I want but everyone else could care less.
3. When you are trying to change something in your life in order to improve the quality of your life (quit smoking, change eating habits, start therapy, quit therapy, however you define improving the quality of your life!), how do you wish others would respond? How do they actually respond? Well, again, my parents back me up but others could care less.
4. When you take a stand for something you believe in (religion, abortion, education, anything that you deem important), how do you wish others would respond? How do they actually respond? I want a fight, I guess, if someone doesn't agree with me. I want to see passion for their point a view. Yet, at the same time, I want them to respect my view as I'll try to respect theirs.
5. Think of your own darn question! Ok! Yesterday on the radio, the topic was porn names. You take you middle name for a first name and the name of the street you grew up on as the last name. They had a guy that happen to have the porn type name, "Patrick Paradise." My porn name is "Allison Spear." So what's your porn name?
Posted by Shawn at April 24, 2002 9:44 AM in Other Memes.
Why are you always so down on yourself? You say that nobody cares for you? When you were up here last weekend, you stayed to yourself and acted pissed off at me the whole time. What did I do to make you so upset? I tried to be friendly and talk and stuff, but you didn't seem interested..I think you have it all backwards. I think you don't want anybody to care or you act like that for attention. Just giving you my opinion, you can get pissed off if you want, but I am just being honest. I do care, but do you care that I care about you...I don't think so....
Posted by: seglenda at April 24, 2002 11:20 AMWhen I was in Nashville, I was more upset at myself. It's difficult as is for me to interact with people and while there, I just felt like I had nothing in common with anyone. Nothing to discuss. I lead a pretty boring life here, so I don't all the stories everyone seems to have.
As for my "others could care less" comment, it was referring to my sibilings and reactions of my office most of the time I have something to share.
Maybe you're right with your " I think you don't want anybody to care or you act like that for attention" comment. I haven't been as lucky as most people that have stayed in one area of the country for most of their life. Maybe I have been cold and heartless like Grandma, only depending on my family members. Because everytime it seems I had a friend or something, fate took that friend away or me away. Sometimes it is easier to sit in the corner like a wallflower feeling as if people don't care because you don't want your heart ripped apart again.
As for finding friends in this town, I would try but I wouldn't have a clue where to find any and most of the people I would have been friends with have left this God forsaken town for good.
Posted by: Shawn at April 24, 2002 12:13 PMAtlamta, I'd love to be there at this moment! Unfortunately, I live in Savannah which is the 4 most boring hours away from Atlanta. I was going to go to college in Atlanta but I backed out for problems of my own.
Posted by: Shawn at April 24, 2002 6:05 PMOh, so you're not in Atlanta. I have no idea why I thought you lived in Atlanta- I must be losing my mind!
It's difficult to make friends, just in general, I think. We live in a culture that goes so fast and neighborhoods where people are so closed that it's not so easy to meet people and make friends. And if you're shy, it's all the harder! (I don't know if you're shy, but I certainly am, and it's tough! I flounder in a crowded room!)
I read these goofy little cards (I'm currently looking at "52 Ways to Find Your True Love" corny, yes, but fun nonetheless!), and one of them says,
"Say Hi!"
"Assuming the person you're looking for inhabits the planet earth, there are two ways to miss manking contact. One, be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Two, be in the right place at the right time, but fail to make your presence known. The latter problem is easily solved, even if being shy is a problem for you- you just have to be willing to give it up. First, practice new, outgoing behavior in familiar settings: tell a story, take center stage in small groups of family and friends, say hi to a stranger. You can work up to showing off your tattoo to people you haven't yet met. And remember, that's the category that includes the person you're hoping to meet."
(by Lynn Gordon)
I thought this was comforting to read (of course, I hope it works in practice!)
Oh, one last thing before I use up all your server space- does your e-mail addy work? I tried to e-mail something to you two weeks ago and it didn't go through (and I kept forgetting to ask you about it!)
Posted by: Eve at April 24, 2002 10:43 PMIt's ok, Eve. I'm used to people equating living in Georgia as living in Atlanta.
As for contacting me, I'll get all e-mail sent to me at the domain shawnallison.com. So if you want to send e-mail to comments(@)shawnallison.com, that will work. For my friend Trish, she's an *NSYNC fan so I just have her use JCisHot(@)shawnallison.com to reach me.
Posted by: Shawn at April 25, 2002 11:45 AMmy porn name would be Jane Homecroft. Doesn't sound very sexy.
My daughters would be Ellen Terry. Not very sexy either, but maybe a bit better than mine!
Posted by: Melanie at April 26, 2002 8:03 PM
